With the recent horrifying events in Paris just a blink of an eye away, I’m writing this post. As living in the south of The Netherlands Paris is just a couple of hours driving from here. Lot’s of people are worried, and are expressing their concerns on different (social) media and also a lot of prayers and positive thoughts are sent to the survivors and the families of the victims. At the same time I realize that in so many other countries in the world wars are going on, on a day to day basis, and lot’s of people are being suppressed or are fearing for their lives because of their believes, religion or other reasons. The exploding attention for what happened in Paris and the very little attention to what happens in other parts of the world is very contradictory. I have no answer how to solve this. The only thing I can do – as I think about it – is, act with as much love as possible in all the things I do and towards other people I meet.
Talking about love and the “interaction” with other people who are aggressive or disrespectful towards others, I had an experience which made me contemplate on ways of “expressing love”. Earlier this week on Wednesday I had a conversation with someone who was upset about something. The situation this person was in, was a difficult one and while she was talking I was sending love silently towards her, because I understood it wasn’t easy for her. At one point in this conversation though she started to get more upset and she started saying some things towards me I didn’t like at all (I couldn’t help her with her question and she discovered that someone who would have taken care of something, didn’t do that, so her situation got worse). I noticed I had to say “stop” to her behavior towards me, not because I got angry of got upset myself, but because of my love for myself. I felt it was disrespectful to my being to let those words in and I gave her calmly and with love in my voice the option to continue the conversation in a respectful way. She choose otherwise. So this made me think this past week more profoundly about expressing love in relationship to setting boundaries, as we are reading now scroll II of The Greatest Salesman, which is all about love.
I wondered whether or not setting boundaries was an act of love towards the other person or not. And if those two aspects are connected to each other or not. I noticed setting boundaries can be down with love, so in that case it is for me an act of love. So yes, there is a connection. And perhaps it also is an act of love towards the other person. I leave that question open, because I cannot judge for the other person. If setting boundaries is done in an angry way, it has a totally different energy. It has more to do with fear. But isn’t fear in a way coming from the want of love too, and sort of an expression of missing or losing love. A coin has two sides, but it represents the same thing, one side is very clearly to see, the opposite side has a more hidden message. As they say, there is something positive in every negative aspect. There is no light without darkness and no darkness without light. You can choose though how and what you express.
For the bigger, aggressive events that are happening in the world right now, the blessing of what is happening is very very hard to find. And I have to dig really really deep to see positive aspects of it. I don’t see the other side of the coin yet. I have to say, I am still looking…
But let’s share love in all the ways we possibly can. Let us create a ripple-effect of love! That’s the least we can do. ❤️❤️